Thanks and we are working on it....

since I posted the last bit we received a call from the sheriff with an apology etc. He said that it was THEIR mishandling and wanted to know what they can do. We told them that we would keep our options open but a written apology would be a good start. They really don't want a law suit and they don't want the media to get wind of this. Well, we see what we will do and have to think about it some more.
Again, thank you for all your thoughts and support. R

Hello ladies, how has everyone been. Great, I hope. R, I am glad that things got better for you as well and sorry it took do long to let you know that. I just now saw your post about the sheriff contacting you. I know its not the best but it is a start. Seems like we are all able to start tying up the loose ends of our situations. I haven't heard from the crazy stalker so I think that is behind me as well. I do have a friend who is dealing with a husband who continually relapses. While this in itself is disturbing, he keeps losing jobs and causing them to have to be evicted from their homes. My friend wont leave because they have six animals together and she cant have kids so she feels like they are her kids. Anyhow, she is disabled and cant work either so she feels like she has to stay with him. While this is no life for her she feels that the times he does well and they have a place to live are worth going through the times he isn't working and they are in the process of being evicted. I have tried everything I know of and have done all I can for them financially and emotionally so does anyone have any suggestions to strengthen their relationship and straighten the hubby up. I have asked her permission and she says do what I can magically but I dont have hubby's permission and truthfully I dont know if anything will work on him. I know from myself that when a person isn't ready, they just aren't ready. Any advice? bless you all, look forward to some interesting solutions.

Glad to hear from you again....yeah, time does a lot and I guess things have to improve.
I hate to hear about your friend. It's a pretty ugly situation she is in. As for help, I don't know. You have done what you can and until she gets fed up with that you just have to let it roll. I know it's very frustrating to just stand back and see it happen but until they hit rock bottom and want help there isn't much you can do. They have to realize it for themselves in order to get back on their feet.
I'm done preaching now...lol as for some specialzed help, well, in Hoodoo we don't ask for permisson and do what we need to do. I know there are some sure remedies which cure alcoholism but I don't know how that would work with drug issues. Maybe April or Julian have some ideas....Have a good night, R.

Hey, I'm thinking a frying pan upside the head will do it, but... I'm just in one of those moods this morning.

Think about this though. Is making the relationship stronger really in your friends best interest? I think that if you start off with some healing spells things will start to come around, but make sure that you cast on both people. Make sure too that it includes a healing of the soul and psyche.

April, ha ha, I agree with the frying pan. I have one that would do wonders too but my friend is so naive that she would swear he needs a hug instead of a whop upside the head. You are right about the spell too. I wanted some good healing spells along with curing alcoholism or drugs. I can modify and alcohol one for drugs if need be. They were here tonight and my girlfriend had a long talk with the husband and he swears that it will all get better but I keep telling my girlfriend that if he wont change for his wife, hes not gonna do it for us. He needs to do it for himself. Either way I would appreciate some healing and alcoholism spells please. Thanks so much and I hope all is well with everyone.
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Johnica

So this is the deal with spells... It is usually better to craft your own to use. Why? Because no one has been in your particular situation before.

This is not difficult, as a matter of fact it is really easy. All that is requires is that it comes from the heart and that it is VERY clear and specific about what you want. Example... I cast a spell to "win the lottery", I did, it was a dollar not the jackpot I had envisioned. Ha Ha on me. I know to be very specific.

So you could write something down like... Whatever the real cause of his drug and alcohol use, let it be healed as though it had never happened. Or... Whatever makes her think that she has to stay with him, let it be gone and let her see what a wonder and beauty she really is.

You can use candles and incense for this too if you want. It's not hard to research out what to use or better yet just go with what feels right. Deep down you know what is needed and you know how to get it accomplished. Just take your time and be clear about the changes you want to see.