Hey ladies and Gents. I how is everyone. Hope all is well and sorry I have been gone so long. Like usual School is kicking my butt in a good way. By the time I am done, I am zonked out. Of course for our more experienced members I have a question. A while back I ran into a person from my past life (as you may remember, I am a recovering addict). She ended up being the person I relapsed with when I had the dirty urine situation with parole and I was so worried. Anyway, After that one incident I stopped and was devastated that I let myself go back and again as you may remember I was scared to death about going back to jail. That was enough to put the fear of God in me and I have been clean ever since. Regardless, the young woman I was with has since been incarcerated and unfortunately in my short time hanging out with her, I gave her all of my info because once I got clean she had asked for help and resources to get her self together as well. Needless to say, she didnt stop and got locked up and found out that she had a bunch of warrants so, now she is sitting in jail on her last charge and in need of 5,000 bail ( really she needs 100.00). Since she has been there she has depended on me to do everything she needs, like pick up her stuff, run errands etc. I have done all she asked and sent her what I can on my small budget. This has not been enough for her and she has said as much. Basically she claims that since she spent so much getting me high that I should go to any lengths to help her. The point is that I have spent as much as she did on me when we relapsed and secondly, we are supposed to be living different lives, so that shouldn't be a factor now. She wants a 100.00 that I dont have to get out and is really acting psychotic because I dont have it. She is writing me crazy mail etc. I can stop her calls and mail while in jail but I am worried about when she gets out because she has my address. I thing she is really crazy enough to want to start problems because I cant help her get out. What do you all suggest. I dont want to go to the law because I dont know if this will happen but I would like some spiritual backup. I know I brought this on myself when I used with her but I have since then stayed clean and changed my ways. What should I do?

I want to add that I realize that sometimes actions will come back to haunt you over and over again, but for those of you who remember when the relapse happened, you all saw how upset I was with myself and you were very supportive of me. I just feel like I dont know how long this is going to keep biting me in the you know what. Fist with parole and now with this crazy person who wont stop harassing me. This woman has been locked up since a week after the relapse in January and still all this time she doesn't realize her part in her incarceration nor does she see that she is harassing people. She really feels that the 30.00 she spent on me that day is cause for me to keep doing and doing for her. I already went to the jail she was in at Baltimore ten times trying to bring her things and visit and each time something happened and the jail wouldnt let me in, then I bought her a package of underwear and socks and stuff that they wouldnt let her have, etc this is just a few of the things I did and she still feels that hasn't paid this debt. What do you guys (mainly ROMANA, and April) think?
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strengthen the wards and protections around the house, brick dust works wonders. Tell her that you no longer "owe" her anything, and that you've been trying to help because you were a friend but that relationship is beeing seriously stressed. If she persists call the law on her. That is what they are there for.

This kind of person is the kind that won't quit untill you get nasty with her (I think). Be firm, hold your ground, and let her "hit the bricks".

yep, April said it....get to pounding those bricks into dust and put a line by the doors. Also I must say that you don't OWN her a thing and don't get suckered in by her laying a guilt trip on you. If nothing else go to the cops and file a report. At least that way they have a record of it. And most of all, don't talk to her etc. Unless she is totally crazy she will go away if she realizes that her little scam and guilt trip doesn't work.

Sorry, that I've been so tied up lately, but some awful things happened over the weekend and I'm still trying to straighten out the fall out.
Take care and don't let her influence you in any way. R

Legally, keep all her letters, keep track of the date and content of each phone call (or record them). She is harassing you. Tell her that you've moved on. Let someone you trust know about all of this (keeping a worse case scenario in mind).

Spiritually, create a ritual using one of her letters. (make a copy for your records) Cast your circle, light your candles and ask the spirits to release you of her presence in your life. Burning the letter - that she has touched and infused with her thoughts. Send it all away from you.

I am of no use with ritual specifics. I am still finding my way along a path or craft.

Be creative.

Not yet named, welcome and April, thanks for the answers. I appreciate them greatly. Actually she has gotten out and called to ask to come over and I explained that until she gets herself together I dont feel it is beneficial to be near her as the last time we were together I relapsed. She was upset but I also explained that while she feels I owe her and that I didnt do enough that only further proves our "friendship" isn't real and that I will do all I can to protect myself and my family. I also told her that If she continues to call that I will call the police. She got very upset and couldn't believe I would have her locked up for trying to be my friend and I let her know that I dont need friends like her. I think her desire to stay out of jail is stronger than her desire to be my stalker. Anyway, to April and ROMANA when you read this, I really appreciate this being that its embarrassing enough for me to keep reliving the situation as I went through so much with it the first time and I love that you all care enough to help and it inspires me to stay doing the right things. You have shown me that there are still good people in the world. For years I left the path and situated myself with people who are users, abusers, and negative and I forgot the goodness in the world. Since I am slowly finding my way back I am discovering the world again and its great. Thanks again. Bless you guys and I will see you later.